So I realized today that it is impossible not to get frustrated with children, no matter if they are your's or someone else's, but it amazes me that if it's mine I feel an instant irritation over unacceptable or intolerable behavior than when it's someone else's, then I feel sorry for the parent that they have to take this child home with them for good.
Today I witnessed the first true child tantrum since I've become a parent. I'm assuming because I wasn't a parent before that I could have cared less or swore that my kid would never be that way (tho I'm waiting any day for it to happen!), but it's almost a terrifying thing to witness how a small human could flail their body and get so mad over being told to sit and eat in a public arena. I tried to be the rational adult, but who am I kidding, I'm trying to reason with a 2-year old child! But it doesn't bother me one bit. I eat my food all the while trying to maintain this little one so my girlfriend can eat in peace, and I feel badly that I'm not doing a better job to give her a small break and a digestable meal for once.
And then just like that his tears stop and he is all luvy and we leave the table to move on to the next activity. It's amazing how quickly kids forget as well that they just did something unthinkable in public. I remember when I was a kid, I wouldn't yell or scream or kick or cry (at least I don't think so; my parents would have to post otherwise), I would do the opposite- I would sit and stew and cross my arms and legs and not move and not speak. My parents would have to pick me up and I'd be frozen in that same position til I got over it. I don't know which is worse because at the end of the day, both cause a scene to some degree and embarrass the heck out of the parents. And here I am an adult, I still stew and and sit quietly. Guess there are some things that don't always give just because we are adults.
Thursday, March 29, 2007
Wednesday, March 28, 2007
Life's Crazy Sometimes
How come right when you think you've got it all figured out and you feel like you're all put together finally, life throws a curve ball and all your dominos fall down and go "boom"??
For example, society tells us to get married, have kids, work hard and earn an honest wage. But no one ever tells you in what order or at what speed to do this. When is the timing ever right? Well, for my husband and I we did this in fast forward. We met, dated, moved in together, he bought a house, I bought a weiner dog, we got engaged, married and had a baby all in the span of a handful of years.
I was on the path of success for my career, going back to school working towards my Master's degree to creep up the career ladder someday, and I had my plans well in motion to eventually move back home to fullfill that and go back to the place I felt comfortable. I was well over dating Mr Wrong and Mr OK For Now, so I threw my hands up swearing to never date a soul til I found the man I could call my husband...
Then I met "Him", and here I am today, still living in the city taking a moment away from my education to raise a family and working part time to maintain my career all the while losing focus because my personal life has me so well distracted. Now we have a crazy household consisting of an 8 month old with separation anxiety issues who has immediately become our boss the moment his tiny existence entered this world (the pay isn't good, but it's a priceless job), our weiner dog has become more human than we care to imagine, fighting over toys with her "brother" and vying for space and attention from the Mommy and the Daddy, and resorting to regressed actions like a toddler would over envy of his new sibling as well! My husband's work schedule is quite demanding and I try hard to hold down the fort while going to work here and there, and all the while we try to remember the days when it was only us and we felt young and free. And I realize now that it is us who must change and make new days and moments to move forward and stay close.
I can talk with my girlfriends and realize that they too, feel the overwhelming surge of motherhood, wifehood, career woman-hood, and the whole gammet, and we laugh because there are those moments that when you say it out loud you realize that it's a ridiculous ride, but well worth the price in tickets, so you hold on tight, take it day by day, and hope that you can get thru it without a scratch from the unexpected hills on this roller coast ride called life.
For example, society tells us to get married, have kids, work hard and earn an honest wage. But no one ever tells you in what order or at what speed to do this. When is the timing ever right? Well, for my husband and I we did this in fast forward. We met, dated, moved in together, he bought a house, I bought a weiner dog, we got engaged, married and had a baby all in the span of a handful of years.
I was on the path of success for my career, going back to school working towards my Master's degree to creep up the career ladder someday, and I had my plans well in motion to eventually move back home to fullfill that and go back to the place I felt comfortable. I was well over dating Mr Wrong and Mr OK For Now, so I threw my hands up swearing to never date a soul til I found the man I could call my husband...
Then I met "Him", and here I am today, still living in the city taking a moment away from my education to raise a family and working part time to maintain my career all the while losing focus because my personal life has me so well distracted. Now we have a crazy household consisting of an 8 month old with separation anxiety issues who has immediately become our boss the moment his tiny existence entered this world (the pay isn't good, but it's a priceless job), our weiner dog has become more human than we care to imagine, fighting over toys with her "brother" and vying for space and attention from the Mommy and the Daddy, and resorting to regressed actions like a toddler would over envy of his new sibling as well! My husband's work schedule is quite demanding and I try hard to hold down the fort while going to work here and there, and all the while we try to remember the days when it was only us and we felt young and free. And I realize now that it is us who must change and make new days and moments to move forward and stay close.
I can talk with my girlfriends and realize that they too, feel the overwhelming surge of motherhood, wifehood, career woman-hood, and the whole gammet, and we laugh because there are those moments that when you say it out loud you realize that it's a ridiculous ride, but well worth the price in tickets, so you hold on tight, take it day by day, and hope that you can get thru it without a scratch from the unexpected hills on this roller coast ride called life.
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